Setting My Table: Faith, Healing, and Boundaries

Before we dive in, I’d like to say that this particular article has taken a while to compose. I am talking a bit in general terms, but there are quite a lot of personal experiences behind every sentence, details that makes you question some of your life choices. I do believe the text might resonate with some of you, and I’d be curious to read your comments.

Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs. We all experience moments that shake us, challenge us, and leave us feeling bruised. I’ve had my share of those moments, times that tested my resilience and forced me to confront some hard truths. But through the pain and the struggle, I’ve discovered something invaluable: the power of healing, the importance of choosing who I surround myself with, and the unwavering strength found in my faith.

For a long time, I was caught up in the details, replaying events in my mind, trying to make sense of everything that had happened. I felt the need to explain myself, to justify my actions, to make sure everyone understood “my side of the story.” But eventually, I realized something profound: dwelling on the past wasn't helping me move forward. It was keeping me stuck in a cycle of hurt and resentment. This resonates with Proverbs 4:23: “Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.” I realized I needed to guard my heart and focus on what truly mattered.

That’s when I came to a powerful realization:

“My side of the story doesn't matter anymore. Life happened, it hurt, I healed, but most importantly I learned who deserves a seat at my table and who will never sit at it again.”

This quote perfectly encapsulates my journey. It’s about letting go of the need for external validation and focusing on internal growth, guided by faith. It's about accepting what has happened, learning from the experience, and moving on with newfound wisdom.

This reminds me of Romans 8:28:

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”

Even in the midst of painful experiences, I trust that God is working for my good.

Healing isn’t a linear process. There are good days and bad days, moments of clarity and moments of doubt. But what’s crucial is the conscious effort to move forward, to prioritize self-care, and to cultivate healthy relationships, leaning on God for strength.

Psalm 34:18 tells us,

“The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.”

This verse has been a constant source of comfort during difficult times.

The “table” in the quote is a powerful metaphor. It represents my inner circle, the people I choose to share my life with. These are the individuals who lift me up, support my dreams, and offer unwavering love and understanding, reflecting the love of Christ. They are the ones who have proven themselves to be worthy of my trust and time.

Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.”

This speaks to the value of true, supportive friendships.
And just as importantly, I’ve learned to recognize those who don’t deserve a place at my table. These are the people who have caused me pain, betrayed my trust, or consistently brought negativity into my life. It’s not about holding grudges or seeking revenge; rather,

Matthew 6:14-15 guides us: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

Choosing who is in my inner circle is about protecting my emotional and spiritual well-being, and setting healthy boundaries.

Building and maintaining strong, healthy relationships is essential for a fulfilling life. By carefully choosing who I let into my inner circle, I’m creating a supportive and nurturing environment where I can thrive, strengthened by my faith. This journey of healing and self-discovery, grounded in biblical principles, has taught me the importance of prioritizing my own well-being and surrounding myself with those who truly value me. It's about building a tribe, a chosen family, a table full of people who make life richer, brighter, and more meaningful, all under the guidance of God.

We all long for peace, a peace of mind or also referred to as inner peace. When you see these Bible verses in this context of your own experiences, they do present themself in a different light, giving you a better understanding of your own situation. You may also find that it will strengthen your relationship not only with your close ones, but also with God. Being able to forgive and let go is not so easy as it sounds. You can say the words, you may wish to honor those words, but sometimes your brain is just stubborn. Sometimes it takes a lot of effort to manage to let go. But believe me, when you do, a burden is lifted from your shoulders.

For me, the week can be so busy that time flies, and I don’t really feel I have enough time to connect with everyone around me. Then come Friday evening. The Sabbath, a very special sanctuary in time. It gives me and everyone else a a precious opportunity to reconnect with our Creator.

"For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and hallowed 1 it." (Exodus 20:11, NKJV)

From my own experience,
observing The Sabbath gives you a new perspective of what rest really is.

Thank you for reading. Happy Sabbath.